I came across this quote today on my friend's Instagram account. It is something I have thought about a lot lately, but I haven't been able to put the words together in the right way. This is very well said, and I believe it to be one of the greatest keys to happiness.
I have had the phrase "don't chase people" in my head recently. This is a lesson I have learned in the last two years. It's been a difficult lesson to learn, and painful on many occasions, but a very important one.
There are people who come into our lives for a time, or for a reason, and then they leave. The leaving is the part that I really struggle with. I love people. I have many friends, and I really love to maintain relationships with people I have come to love.
I have what I consider a gift of feeling connected to people very quickly. I am able to look deep within the person and see who they really are, and I love most people almost immediately. Because of this love for them, I feel comfortable around them and tend to open myself up fairly early on in the friendship. I think this makes many people uncomfortable and it usually feels as though this connection is not mutual, or the vulnerability required in a close relationship is not reciprocated.
In the past, I have had a very difficult time in letting go of those who want to go. This is a skill I have been forced to develop as of late, and I have come to realize that the right people are in my life at the right times. I have no right to insert myself into someone's life who no longer wants or needs me there, and I have to be ok with that. I can't chase them.
I've got to continue to "do my thing" and the people I need in my life will come and find me, and they will stay. I've had some really incredible people find me over the years, and a lot of them have stayed. I've also had some amazing people find me, but then leave. I'm sure I have left a few as well simply because life and circumstances change.
I believe this idea of living your life, or "doing your thing" without worrying too much about which people may come or go is a huge key to personal happiness. The people who truly matter in this life are the people I will be with forever...my family. Those are the relationship that must have the most time invested into them. The eternal relationships should be the priority. I have spent much more time with my family in the last couple of years than I did the pervious few and I am a much happier person. I love my family, and I am lucky to have such wonderful people who love me back. I am truly blessed.
Now, to figure out "my thing". I think that inspires a new blog post...My Favorite Things